pen to paper or keyboard to screen. those are the real forms of communication. private conversations between two people which short of opening someone else's mail or hacking into their hotmail account are generally kept to those two people. networking sites can be monitored and nosy gossip mongers can read all your comments, but if you send a letter or an email you know you have a 89% chance of the only person reading it being the person it was intended for. of course, this can sometimes go very wrong.